Heal your Soul

Facebook has suddenly changed the definition of social networking. One of my friend’s facebook status is “Should our decision be based on others happiness or on our own?” He got many responses. Some favoring the former while the rest favored the latter. What do you think should be correct answer? Or is there a correct answer for such kind of a question?

Many times people come across such questions at some point in their lives and there is no correct answer. Each of us has our own dreams, desires, passions and wants. But factors like family, compulsions, priorities etc force us to modify those dreams and we end up achieving something entirely different. My friend is one of those people who have been sacrificing his own happiness for the will of others from a long time. This continuous process leads to a state where you feel a vacuum inside and we start to question your own self.

But this realization is a positive sign as it is the first step to bridge the gap between us and our happiness. After all, the real happiness is not outside but should be searched within. I agree that this sudden realization is disturbing, but as sometimes we need a jolt to become aware of our surrounding, we also need a jolt to become aware of the damage that is being caused to our soul.

We cannot bridge this gap until we start accepting things. Acceptance of situation, acceptance of people as they are, and acceptance of the fact that you cannot make everyone happy.

Take a very small group say of ten people. Even in such a small group you cannot make everybody happy. If you work for the happiness of five people, then the other five will be unhappy. So stop trying to please everyone because that is impossible. Accept people as they are. You will not only find peace but will also realize how worked up you always were in the process of pleasing others.

Finding peace is easier, but the important thing is to defend your peace when others are eager to disturb it. In this world where almost every second element is ready to give you stress, it is vital to maintain your peace of mind and work diligently. The easiest way to do this is to be aware and be in full control of oneself. Controlled damage will not only help you to realize your positive attributes, but will also help you to add value in other spheres of life.

Experiences help us to understand our weaknesses and strengths. Incidents happen in our lives, more important is to learn and move on. Any experience is good as long as we emerge as a better person in value, knowledge and strength. No one else can heal our hidden wounds but ourselves. Give yourself little time to reflect on your acts and understand how you could have emerged out of the situation in a better way. If something bad has happened then learn from the incident and let it go.

Stop searching happiness outside because real happiness is hidden within us. Find peace and happiness will find you.